After the Conversation
So you've had a conversation with your loved one about their gambling. Now what?
Recognize positive steps, and give praise for success.
Remember that change takes time. It may take several tries before your loved one successfully changes their behaviour.
Get help for yourself. A counsellor or self-help group can help you communicate effectively, reduce guilt, and raise self-esteem. You are stronger than you know.
If necessary, protect your finances. By reducing access to funds, you help strengthen their commitment to change and give your family peace of mind.
How to protect yourself
If you decide to financially support your loved one, pay the bills or make purchases directly. Do not give them cash. If necessary, get help from a credit counselling agency. It might help to consult with a counsellor at Family Service PEI's Financial Empowerment Program who can offer credit counselling services like personalized budgeting & financial information sessions catered specifically to those facing financial hardships.
Negotiate for control of family finances
Assume responsibility for all credit and debit cards, or consider having a trusted family member or friend take over until the issue is resolved.
Protect your assets
Set up separate bank accounts. Consider changing bank accounts, mortgages, and other assets so that the person who gambles cannot access them. Change your passwords and PINs to limit access to accounts, and consider hiding your valuables.
Make Self-Care a Priority!
Caring for a loved one with a gambling addiction and other concurrent addictions can be very demanding on you. You may notice physical, mental, emotional or other signs that you are experiencing stress or burnout.
It is important to take care of yourself and improve the quality of your own life despite how the addiction may be affecting others in your midst. A person is unable to offer care and compassion to another if they don’t take care of themselves first. A healthy caregiver is a good caregiver.
We Can Help!
Reach out to the PEI Gambling Support Line anytime you need confidential support, resources, or guidance for yourself or a loved one.